How do I have longer and more intense orgasms? (Part 2)

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How much do you feel your woman?!!??

I planned originally to talk about what happens to a woman, when she is caressed for 40 minutes... and I will get there, however, I would like to expand a bit more on the overall differences of experiences between men and women during the sexual encounter.

I happened to watch today again a scene from the iconic movie "How Harry met Sally?" (watch here 🤣, or if the link gets broken by chance by the time you read this, you can search "When Harry Met Sally - Restaurant Scene" )

Even in this tantra infused 'age', there is still a deep disconnect between the masculine and the feminine. Men get so absorbed in penetration and are driven by their fiery - genital-centered (1st

chakra) energy, which is great, that often, unless the woman communicates that she has not had a magnificent experience, they would have had no idea that she was not 'dancing' with her man.

And, what might prevent a man to realize that his woman is not 'riding her wave of pleasure' to the fullest is his own insecurities, habits and beings centered on his energy and pleasure... He might actually not 'feel her' energy.

But let's look for a moment, what might prevent a woman from sharing how the experience was for her might be multiple things:

* First and foremost, she might not feel safe in the relationship (it might be a new relationship or she might have had trauma - abandonment, rejection, sexual trauma, even body issues, etc.)

* She might not be in the mood to 'shake' the situation - she likes her man generally and might be tired, close to her moon time (menstrual cycle) and in a cuddling mood, etc.

* She might not know how to bring up the subject and how to share vulnerably due to multiple reasons, but often the root of all of them might be that she had no role model(s) - may be her mother didn't speak up and the father was the only one talking - so she had no 'imprint' of adult conversation on difficult subjects between individuals, who respected each other and knew they were equal but different.

* She might not want to hurt her man's feelings - often times women feel that their man might not be able to handle any subject related to his 'penis size', erection length, including premature ejaculation (*) and overall his 'performance in bed'. This is just as much supported by media images and articles, movies and books. She might have basically not mastered the art of stating her needs in a loving and gentle way.

* She might have tried to hint it and the man might have had no idea what she is saying. In her mind - she had said she had unsatisfactory experience and, in his mind, there has been no conversation, thus the

subject does not 'exist'.

* She might think there is an issue with her, so she needs to find a solution and she is shy about sharing, as she might not want to make her man feel that she is not enjoying their intimate time enough to get gushingly lubricated (**) or have an 'explosive orgasm'(***).

And so on and so forth, as every woman is different, there would be multiple variations around these themes.

Notes:

(*) Premature ejaculation has degrees. You could find a medicinal definition online, and also see some humorous examples in movies like 'Sex and the city.' But it is unfortunate that generally, unless the man has received training in ejaculative retention, edging, circulating his energy and other similar arts, he is generally premature ejaculator. The reason is that generally the male energy is fiery, thus much faster and in addition most often men have learned to mastrubate in a hurry due to the generational sexual suppression and the fear of their parents walking in and then the imprint of pornography (which most men watch), where the average 'sexual act' / intercourse is 7-10 minutes, including 2 minutes attention to the woman (quick caressing and squeezing focus on the breasts and then about a minute of attention to her clitoris) and then penetration, where essentially the man is 'mastrubating himself' through the woman by moving in and out of her (since she is not really fully ready, see below).

I also talked a bit about the same subject here.

(**) On a related subject what is being 'gushingly lubricated'? A woman has multiple levels of readiness. Thank goddess, nature has prepared her very wisely in case she gets raped, which is why she would get stages of lubrication. She will have some lubrication when a man plays with her clit and breasts, but this is stage one. Stage one is when she gets ready for a quick penetration, this prevents her body being molested by a rapist, since the sexual organs tissue is very gentle and easily scarred.

The contrasting case would be a woman, who is dripping wet and actually begging her man to stop teasing her and just get in. How to get there, well there is a manual on the signs of the female arousal, written thousands of years ago by the Chinese. But to simplify it, the man needs to master his ejaculation and pay at least 30 minutes attention to his woman's whole body, caressing from periphery to center.

(***) And the most exiting part - what is an 'explosive orgasm'. As we all know, man is done after an ejaculation and for many (if not most men) there is no separation between orgasm and ejaculation. And woman is capable to at least 4 genital orgasms, some women experience 20 orgasms in one 'lovemaking meeting' with her partner. And,

* the Chinese tantrikas would circulate the energy and experience orgasms in the various internal organs, including the breasts;

* the Indian tantrikas would rise the energy and orgasm through the different chakras, including Mahamudra, the most 'expansive' experience in the body of being one with God;

And the secret is that the woman is initiatrix in all of these states by seducing her man deeper into intimacy and sensuality, she can facilitate the man to open with her deeper and deeper into God through sex. But the man also needs to be ready to dive in.

Part 3 on slow touch will come over the next week or two. Thank you for your patience. 🌹💖

(Art by Tina Maria Elena, https://tinamariaelena.com/)